Day 4: Love is Thoughtful
It talks about when a relationship is new, your constantly thinking about the other person, but over time that changes. "Sparks of romance slowly burn into grey embers, and the motivation for thoughtfulness cools. You drift into focusing on your job, your friends, your problems, your personal desires, yourself. After a while, you unintentionally begin to ignore the needs of your mate."
There's a paragraph that says men often focus on one thing to the exclusion of everything else, while women are more aware of everything. Then there are several paragraphs about how men and women might communicate very differently, and how this can cause conflict. It says thoughtfulness is required in order to be able to meet in the middle.
Today's dare is to contact your spouse sometime during the day and ask how he or she is doing and if there is anything you can do for them.
This was another challenge that wasn't really a challenge for us. Firstly, we were together all day, so it's not like we would have the need to call each other or anything. And we're always checking in with each other, when it's not our challenge of the day. So we really just needed to continue with how we do things, and didn't have to make any special effort to complete the challenge. However, I can see how this would be a good thing to incorporate when Andrew is working.